Dreams, Visions and Reality

“To fulfill a dream, to be allowed to sweat over lonely labor, to be given the chance to create is the meat and potatoes of life” ~ Miss Bette Davis

A Few From The Other Side July 25, 2008

The week has again flown by! Fearless Friday will be posted this evening.

I recently read articles about the worst website design and blog mistakes that people can make and I am apparently making most of them! My biggest offense is in not being able to land on a niche. There is so much that I enjoy writing about! According to these articles, this is not what an audience wants and I am giving serious consideration to my focus. I suppose that I could have a number of different websites and blogs but I’m not sure that time is going to allow for that. This blog has established a good following and would be best for my affiliate advertiser articles, but these will not always fit with the title and original focus of this blog.

That being said and considered, I have used my alternate blog to write these articles:

What If It Was Always Easy?

Money And The Law Of Attraction

Feedback and ideas are greatly appreciated. Have a wonderful Friday and an even better weekend.

 

iEmporium Featured In Ning Blog! July 23, 2008

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This just in – quick update on a previous post:

iEmporium- Where Success And Shopping Sizzle!

Our network has been featured in the Ning blog!

Shoppers and Sellers Unite at iEmporium

and Jenny did a wonderful job! This is GREAT exposure for our merchants!

Don’t forget, join this month and receive an entry into a drawing for a full page feature ad in the August catalog!

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The Attack Of The Killer Backpack! July 22, 2008


Summer is almost over and our local Wal-mart is handing out lists of school supplies. Parents are wandering through the “seasonal” aisles watching their pennies and longing for the big day to come, so this is the perfect time to write about this. I’ve had chronic back and neck pain since I was a teenager which became disabling when I was in my thirties. Two botched back surgeries later, I’m no better off and feel every little thing from the vibration of the sidewalk to bad chairs and car seats. I’m also painfully aware that back injuries can take many years to manifest as chronic pain and serious conditions. By then, extreme measures are sometimes necessary. My children are grown and I graduated college 12 years ago, so I haven’t paid much attention to backpacks lately. I do remember the strain mine put on my back, neck and shoulders and feeling like a bit of a dork for carrying mine on my back instead of on one shoulder like all the rest of the college students. These days, even a too large or too heavy purse can cause the same pain.

A quick search revealed that this is such a widespread problem that many articles have been written. Here are just a few:

Backpack Safety

Backpack Injuries and Pain

Health Tip: Backpack Injuries

This one is interesting:

Scientists Create Bungee Backpack To Lighten The Load I think that the following product idea is a much better solution!

So I was very pleased to run across the Airpacks System from Core Products Home Health Solutions

The patented, ergonomic design combines wider shoulder straps and an inflatable lumbar cushion, which when properly positioned in the small of the back, creates a fulcrum to redistribute the weight from the shoulders to the hips, promoting a healthier upright standing posture, enhancing the body’s natural ability to properly carry weight. Getting the right fit is very important to realize the AirPacks® unique ergonomic design benefit. Visit the Airpacks product page to choose which has the right proportional fit for you or the student in your life.

Airpacks cost no more than the high quality backpacks sold in college bookstores and department stores and are well worth the investment.

While you’re on the site, take a look at some of the other great products this innovative company has to offer:

New, topical Ibuprofen cream for musles and joints

Provide restorative orthopedic neck support and comfort with the Tri-Core Pillow’s trapezoid head cradle design .


The massage gift that keeps on giving, Jeanie Rub, the industry standard in professional massagers are now available for home use.

Hang tight, moms and dads. That big day that we all look forward to will be here before you know it!

See also:

Babies, Kids, Pets and Family


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Site Re-Vamp and New Site July 16, 2008

Just wanted to let you know that I’ve been re-vamping my site a bit.  I use Webnode, a free service, so there’s not a lot of flexibility in the design – although there would be if I had a clue on how to do CSS.  Check out the iEmporium catalog on the Stores page!

Parthena Black – Stores

The links on the left lead to the other store pages I’ve set up.  I created this one for my affiliate programs, and just for fun:

Possibilities by Parthena

Feedback is appreciated!

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Hale Dwoskin On Oprah Radio July 15, 2008

“Forwarding” Hale’s newsletter. Hale is one of the teachers from The Secret and founder of The Sedona Method.


I am going to be on Oprah and Friends radio. Jean Chatzky, Oprah’s Financial Expert, is interviewing me on her show which airs tomorrow — Wednesday, July 16th at 12am, 6am and 11am Eastern (New York) time.

We will be discussing how The Sedona Method can help you to be happy even in challenging financial times.

Oprah and Friends is broadcast on XM radio channel 156. If you have DIRECTV, you may listen on channel 807.

Forward this e-mail to your friends so they can listen too!

Love,

Hale

Hale Dwoskin
President

Sedona Training Associates
sedona.com

Go to the Freebies page for a Free CD and DVD (plus shipping) from The Sedona Method



 

Fearless Friday – Regina @ Margarita Bloom July 14, 2008

I apologize for my tardiness on getting this one posted, which should have been done last Friday, July 11th. The week had gotten away from both me and Regina! and I got tied up working on my new sister site, Possibilities by Parthena. When I was ready, I had trouble opening the attachments she sent for the interview. Zip995 gave them up just when I was about to send an SOS!

I love everything about Regina and her business, Margarita Bloom. Her passion and enthusiasm show through in everything she does, from her personality to her website. She’s classy and fabulous! I go to her iEmporium profile just to listen to her wonderful playlist! I appreciate her taking the time to provide this wonderful interview and sharing how she created her amazing business. Please take the time to visit her site and sign up for updates and specials so that you can be a Margarita Bloom girl, too!

Enjoy, and please join me in wishing Regina continued business growth and success!

How were you inspired to create your business?

I always knew from a very small age that I wanted to have my own business. It wasn’t until I got my very first computer that I was able to see the wonderful world of the internet and what I could accomplish with it. I discovered this entire world of bath and body products and that I could actually have my very own shop online. I learned how to create a website and from there Margarita Bloom was born. My passion really is bath and body goodies and every day is a new experience with a new product or new fragrance oil that gets me excited all over again!

How did you come up with your business name?

I was inspired from a couple quotes by Coco Chanel….“In order to be irreplaceable one must always be different.” and “A girl should be two things: classy and fabulous.”
~ Coco Chanel.

I knew that I needed a name that was somehow very original but yet was something that everybody knew & of course it had to be classy and very fabulous.

It all started with the word bloom…it sounded fresh and cute….and then it hit me….Margarita Bloom….the modern girl. It was perfect. Everybody knew what a margarita was and put the two together and you got the name of a girl that loves to spice up her bath routine with lots of retro fun…the modern girl for bath and body was born! Margarita Bloom! She’s a gorgeous gal with a bit of a modern yet 1950’s flair. She loves beautiful goodies and smelling oh, so nice! nothing but the best for a Margarita Bloom girl.

How did you choose your products?

I basically pick them based on what I would love to use myself. Favorite scents, favorite products, wonderful ingredients….every product in our store is something that I personally would love to use.

How did you fund your business?

I had my family for support and of course saved, saved, saved. Lol…

What types of advertising methods have you used? What works best?

I’ve done a lot of inexpensive budget advertising but mostly word of mouth which seems to work best in answer to your other question. Getting out there and talking to the people who are your customers and clients; introducing your company to them, telling about what you have to offer really seems to be the best way at least for me!


Do you do more marketing online or locally? Which generates the most sales?

I’d have to say online. It’s really allowed me to reach people I never would have been able to reach otherwise.

Does you business fit well with your family and personal life? Is your family supportive?

Yes, of course. My family has always encouraged me to follow my dreams and is even as excited as I am!

Who is your support network outside of family? Do you have a website? Blog?


Truly I would have to say all these wonderful groups I belong to and all the new friends I’ve made along the way of growing my business. They really seem to encourage me and are genuinely excited about MB.

Our website is http://www.margarita-bloom.com and our blog http://www.margaritabloom888.blogspot.com You can even sign up for our specials on our home page too for all those Margarita Bloom girls out there!


What advice do you have for other women starting their own businesses?


I know it sounds cliché, but really follow your dreams. Find your passion and go for it. Don’t be swayed by anybody else telling you, you can’t do it. If it’s something that you really…really, really love your excitement will flow over and spill onto all the people that your company touches and they’ll be just as excited as you and in return your company will prosper. :D

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iEmporium – Where Success And Shopping Sizzle! July 9, 2008

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I am so excited! I joined iEmporium when it was a brand new networking site and expected it to be just another place to post my links and meet friends. Over just these past few weeks, it has developed into a wonderful home on the web where friends meet and businesses grow and are born!

The site is open to merchants and shoppers from all worlds and while the membership is currently predominantly female, male entrepreneurs and shoppers are welcome. If you’re a male entrepreneur, we want you to join us and balance out the estrogen……

In addition to the typical profile page, the site creator, Melissa, has added a Store feature open to all members with a one-time set up fee of just $4.95!

And she has found a way to create an iEmporium Store Catalog!

I’m pleased, honored, happy and grateful to have been asked to be a part of this as a moderator and merchant. I’ve had the privilege of discussing ideas with this pure genius woman and wait ’til you see what else she has brewing!

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Top Ten How-To DVD’s For July 2008 July 7, 2008

A few weeks ago I wrote about my discovery of a great site that offers over 5,949 how-to videos in 228 categories, including dvd’s on my passion for sculpting with polymer clay by famous artists. If you missed it, please go to this link for a description of the SmartFlix service and how it works:

Learn To Sculpt And Just About Anything Else Right At Home

Summer is here and where I live, it’s becoming too hot to spend much time outdoors unless you can spend it in water. Many of us already know that watching movies on DVD is a great way to get through these “dog days” of summer. Why not change the routine a bit this year and learn a new skill or check out a new hobby as well? SmartFlix DVD’s give you the opportunity to educate the kids while they think you’re just amusing them.

The SmartFlix Top Ten List this month features the 10 highest rated SmartFlix videos of all time. Representing a variety of categories and subcategories, these DVD’s are the absolute cream of the crop, rated by the best critics…SmartFlix users! Try out a new skill or hobby with one of these DVDs and you won’t be sorry. Leave your own review, too…your opinion is as important to SmartFlix as it is to other customers searching for the perfect video!

#10 Water Media Collage Workshop

water media dvdAll 16 customers that rated this DVD gave it a 5-out-of-5. You’ll learn to use colors harmonies to unify your work and a design grid to help make sense of the organization of materials and build confidence in your own artistic abilities.

Learn to sandwich fibers, combine and alter pre-existing materials to make them more light fast, personal and satisfying and to create a rainbow of colored tissue prefect for layering.

Carrie Burns Brown’s presentation is sequential and well organized. She shares the tips and tricks she has learned over 30 years to help ensure success. Carrie’s workshop is inspiring, thorough and will keep you busy for years of creative expression. Here’s a customer review for more info:

  • “I loved this DVD so much that I rented it a second time! Carrie Brown shares everything she knows about creating great Water Media Collages, from creating your own materials to putting it all togther. It really inspired me and I’m looking forward to teaching these techniques to my students in the fall. Thanks Carrie and thank you SmartFlix for making learning so affordable!” – Eva M.

Rent Water Media Collage Workshop and create a beautiful work of art with a unique approach!

#9 Sculpting Polymer figures for Beginners

Sculpting a Polyer Mermaid Made Easy
patricia rose Learn step by step from Patricia Rose how to sculpt a cute mermaid out of polymer clay. This is a great video for beginners interested in sculpting. This DVD is about 110 minutes.

How to Sculpt a Fairy in Polymer Clay
Learn step by step from Patricia how to sculpt a sweet 7″ fairy in polymer clay in this beginners video. Learn to sculpt facial features, sweet pouty lips, toes and fingers, ankles and knees. Learn posing,expressions, how to choose settings and tip and tricks and wing design. This DVD is about 120 minutes.

Learn to Sculpt Detailed Faces in Polymer Clay
Learn to sculpt beautiful female facial features with Patricia in this very detailed Instructional video. You will learn the tricks to make a pretty female face very time you sculpt! This DVD runs about 120 minutes.

Here is a customer comment on this unanimously-rated-5-out-of-5 video:

  • “Fantastic video!!! I can’t recommend too much that you see this. Everything she says you will learn, you will! The ease of sculpting she introduces is exceptional. The mystery is gone. The delight of picking up your tools and following along with her, turns into a song and not a drudge! You will truly make items just like she does from this video!!!” – Doris J.

Rent Sculpting Polymer figures for Beginners today!

#8 Making Motorcycle Gas Tanks

motorcycle gas tanks dvdIn this video, Ron Covell goes through the process of making two very different motorcycle gas tanks. The first part of the video shows a chopper-style tank being made from steel. Design, layout, patterning and buck construction are shown in detail. Hand shaping is demonstrated, as well as the use ofa manual shrinker and the benchtop English wheel.

The second part shows a comma-shaped tank being made from aluminum. Design, layout, and patterning are shown, along with annealing, hand shaping, and metalfinishing. Both the benchtop and full-size English wheel are demonstrated, and both TIG and gas welding are utilized. The tank is leak-tested, and a method is shown for making hidden rubber mounts.Each step is clearly detailed, and described in a manner that is easy to understand. The techniques shown in this program can be used to make motorcycle tanks of any shape. Here’s what a customer thought about this favorite:

  • “Ron Covell does a great job in his videos. Not only does he explain how he does things but how you could do them using what you have at your disosal. If you’re at all interested in making a gas tank then I wouldn’t hesitate about watching this video. Very well produced, very well laid out, and the information is top notch. I don’t think you’ll be disappointed in it.” – Chris R.

Rent Making Motorcycle Gas Tanks today!

#7 Housebuilding – Framing Walls

framing walls dvdThis one is bound to save you some serious bucks, and in a time of gas prices beyond $4 per gallon, every dollar really counts!
In this wall-framing video, Larry Haun and his brother Joe build the exterior and interior walls of a basic 1,600-sq. ft. house. Starting from the completed floor deck, they take you step by step through the entire process, showing you practical ways to organize tasks, streamline procedures and handle tools and materials efficiently.

Here’s your chance to watch a framing master at work, and to become a better, more efficient carpenter yourself.

Each section of the video covers a specific topic in detail: layout, plating, headers, cripples, trimmers and rough sills, detailing plates, building and raising walls, plumbing and lining, sheathing walls, and more.

Larry Haun has been a production framer for almost 40 years and a teacher of apprentices for almost 25. He has honed his skills and techniques on hundreds of tract and custom houses, finding countless ways to save time, reduce costs, minimize problems and improve quality. Here’s a customer comment for more info:

  • “Larry’s second in a three part series. These are probably some of the best how to series I’ve ever seen. Lots of information but still keeps the video moving smoothly along with out undue footage perfectly edited I’d say. Watching this I’d compare it to an apprenticeship program. Everything broken down in simple steps and he shows various framing methods for different applications.” – Chad O.

Rent Housebuilding – Framing Walls today!

#6 Expanded Portrait Techniques With Painter

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The Painted Portrait for Photographers – Watercolor in Painter & Photoshop
Learn how to use Photoshop to enhance each facial feature of a retouched image and transform it gracefully into a painting using Corel Painter IX. Create classic portraits in styles of watercolor, hand tinting, sketching, pastel and oil painting. See how brush expression makes a difference in the mood of the painting and how to pull color into interesting shapes.

Learn to balance rough art techniques with photo-realism in a believable and artistic manner and learn how to achieve the hand-painted look while preserving the ultimate photo realism. You will also learn how to make and save custom color sets and how to correctly apply styles of texture to your painting. Expand your vision within Painter and create your own artistic photo image paintings.

Working with the Image Files, Workspace Set Up for Photoshop, Preparing the Face, Workspace Set Up for Painter, Creating the Composition, The Basic Blend, Adding Interest with Paint, The Details, Textures, Final Adjustments

Expanded Portrait Techniques with Painter
Advanced Preparation Techniques, Painter as an Enhancement Tool for Photography, Tinting Techniques in Painter, Chalk Techniques in Painter, Sketching Techniques in Painter, The Classic Photo Oil Painting, Leaving the Photograph WAY Behind!, Conclusion.

Here’s what a customer thought about these 5-out-of-5 rated videos:

  • “WOW! These DVDs are just excellent! I learned so many new techniques. Be sure to take plenty of notes – you’ll forget things and want to refer back to them. There are so many lessons included – it was hard to watch and digest them in just one week! Jane Conner-Sizer is and excellent teacher. She explains in detail what she’s doing and why. I would highly recommend them for anyone wanting to learn more of Photoshop and Corel Painter.” – Patty M.

Rent Expanded Portrait Techniques With Painter today!

#5 Oil Painting – The Lady Of Shalott

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Techniques Learned: Grid Method of Drawing Enlargement, Tonal Wash/Ink Wash Underpainting, Opaque Academic Grisaille Underpainting, Underpainting Glazes, Opaque Overpainting, Drybrush, Glazing, Scumbling.

This video was filmed during the School of Oil Painting, where this painting was the subject of the Old Master (Venetian Method) workshop. It was filmed over a six-day period and shows every demonstration performed for the class. You can be a part of the workshop and paint along with me, just as the participants of the class did. The package contains everything you need to understand and execute the project. Take advantage of this unique product to learn Old Master methods used to reproduce this popular painting, originally done by the great Victorian artist, John William Waterhouse

In reproducing this great masterpiece, She chose to use the most complete academic method available to explore this painting. A grisaille underpainting in shades of which, black and gray is the foundation of this beautiful work. Lessons presented in this lengthy work include instructions on how to enlarge the drawing from 18″ x 24″ to 30″ x 40″ or 36″ x 48″. Here’s what a customer thought:

  • “A very informative video about the classical grisaille technique. Highly recommended. The techniques presented can be applied to any style of painting and improve the end result. Well organized and presented! I also thought it was interesting that Waterhouse who created the original painting did not use this technique but the workshop’s end result was a reasonable facsimile.” – Samuel C.

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#4 Clocks – Advanced Clock Repair

advanced clock repair dvdLearn the advanced repair techniques used by many of the top professionally trained clock repair experts.

A few of the many topics covered:

Straightening pivots and arbors, Repairing lantern pinions, Replacing worn or broken pivots, Wheel tooth replacement, Working with spring barrels, Barrel tooth replacement, Barrel hook replacement, Soldering technique, Clock repair using a lathe, Pivot polishing on a lathe, How to use various clock repair tools, Alternative repair techniques, Bushing movement plates, Tools used in clock repair.

Here’s what a customer thought about this video:

  • “Clock repair is almost a lost trade there is not that many clock repair tradesmen doing it any more mostly because a lot of old-time clock repair men have passed away or they are to old and cannot continue doing repairs. Times have changed and we live in a throwaway world where you buy a new clock and if it stops running you just throw it away and buy new one. There is still a lot of clocks out there that people want to have repaired this is why we have to keep this trade going. This is my first time watching a course on clock repair. I am glad that John has made these courses to get a new generation of clock repair people interested again in the trade. John tope has done a good job with this advanced course. This course on Advanced clock repair has good techniques and gives you step-by-step procedures on repairs. This course is for someone that has already some knowledge of clock repair,you must already know how to completely take apart and reassemble a clock before going through this course. I recommend it and if you already know how to do some of the repairs on this course it is always a good opportunity to watch a other clock repair person to get their techniques to make you more knowledgeable for repairs. I look forward to watching his other clock courses.” – William W.

Rent Advanced Clock Repair today!

#3 Sculptural Glassworking

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Disc 1 – Introduction
The basics of working Pyrex brand of sodium borosilicate crystal, including geometric solids, beginning techniques and many small animals. This DVD runs about 120 minutes.

Disc 2 – Small, Quick, Moneymaking Items
Pendants, earrings, small animals, marbles, buttons, napkin rings and much more out of borosilicate glass. This DVD runs about 120 minutes.

Disc 3 – Fantasy
Larger pieces, including dragons, pegasus, unicorns, wizards and mermaids- a more advanced tape. This disc runs about 120 minutes.

Disc 4 – Aquatic Life
Larger pieces, including dolphins, whale, shark, turtle, seal with ball, octopus, seahorse and scuba diver on this advanced tape. This disc runs about 120 minutes.

Disc 5 – Wildlife
This advanced video includes ram, deer, giraffe, eagle, elephant, trees and cactus. This disc runs about 120 minutes.

Here’s a customer comment on this fantastic series:

“A great introduction to flameworking Pyrex glass. Lewis makes it look really easy. I now am very motivated to get myself a torch and start making Pyrex animals and pendants. I can just see myself at my local county fair, with a big group of watching customers waiting to give me their money as I turn out hummingbirds, dragons, and dichroic pendants. Lots of fun!” – Gabriel W.

Rent Sculptural Glasswork today and you could make a bundle of pieces and sell them…for a bundle of cash!

#2 Woodturning – Turn it Up with Jimmy Clewes

jimmy clewes woodturning dvd

Disc 1
A colored form turned from Maple with hand carving and a 12 carat white gold.

A simple hat turned thinly without any jigs – just careful tooling.

Extra Features: Jimmy talks about various methods for mixing and using coloring.

Disc 2
A natural edge bowl from Acacida burr, discussing shape, tooling and forming.

A lidded box turned from Box Elder burr with chattered Ebony Insert.

Disc 3
A double natural-edge turning from Australian Mallee Burr.

Jimmy Experiments: a unique multi-offcenter sculpture with Ash with Ebony highlights.

Here’s what a customer had to say about this video:

  • “Excellent DVDs! Great production values and brilliant instruction. My only complaint is that he makes it look much easier than it will ever be for me. My fault, not his. Very highly recommended!!!!!” – Gordon R.

Rent Woodturning – Turn it Up with Jimmy Clewes today!

#1 Oil Painting – Victoria: Painting Portraits in Oils from Photographs

painting portraits in oils from photographs dvd

Learn fine art techniques including the direct alla-prima painting method to produce a work of art in a loose, impressionistic style. Project materials include computer-prepared guides and maps that will make it easy to see the shape, planes and values on the human head.

This program is designed for beginning portrait painters, and is useful in understanding basic portrait painting concepts, whether the painter uses photographic references or works from the live model, as both scenarios are compared and contrasted.

“Victoria” is painted with a limited palette of colors and shows how you can create realistic fleshtones from just a few basic colors. Recipes for generic flesh colors and values are given, which can be adjusted subtly to match the flesh color of your model, whether it is painted from life or from photographs.

The simplicity of this head and the composition make it the ideal program for a first attempt at portrait painting, as all the photographic references used in the program are included in the printed materials that accompany the video. Here’s what a customer had to say:

  • “This video is great! My husband doesn’t even paint and he was fascinated by it. We watched it twice. She explains every step in great detail. It was so inspiring that I wanted to run out and buy tons of canvas. I’m a beginner and she made it look achievable.” – Terry O.

Rent Victoria: Painting Portraits in Oils from Photographs today!

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Competition And The Law Of Attraction July 4, 2008

Fearless Friday will be a little delayed today due to the holiday. The majority of readers enjoy these on the weekends anyway, so enjoy your holiday Friday and I promise a special treat when you return.

The Universe has such an amazing way of responding to exactly what we need when we need it. I’ve recently observed a situation that is both very sad and rather amusing at the same time. It reminds me of a very similar scenario that occurred a few years ago and a post that I recently wrote:

Colleague or Competitor?

A woman in our community had a little candle and gift shop where she sold her handcrafted soaps and jewelry. I often suggested to her that she change her hours to be open when people had a chance to come in and shop since I frequently drove by and found the shop to be closed. The shop was open in the early part of the day during the week and on Saturdays, missing out on the heavy early evening traffic that passed by every single day. I can’t remember what her reasons were for not changing her hours but I do remember that she frequently complained that her business did not do well. It so happened that several people, including myself, started our own businesses within the same period of time. According to her, this created too much competition and we, as her “so-called friends” were “stabbing her in the back” by choosing to create related businesses. One woman created a clothing line and this was unacceptable since she sold t-shirts in her store. I was learning to make soap and this was a direct betrayal although I did not have a “business.” I had, however, begun my clay business and she followed suit, but somehow this did not qualify as the same thing.

The end result was that she closed her shop, claiming we had forced her out of business. Never mind that she did have a small but very loyal customer base and that she was in the process of filing a malpractice suit over a botched back surgery. In order to win the suit, she had to stop working.

My day job puts me in the car for up to half of my day, so any reading that I want to do must be done on tape or CD. Yesterday I listened to “The Secret” and it happened that I chose CD #3, which includes a chapter on being competitive and the law of attraction.

Competition is rooted in fear and a belief that there is not enough. When we focus our thoughts on lack, we attract more lack. When we are focused on fear that anyone or anything can take away from us, guess what shows up? More people of the same mind, who will compete with us. Running a business is challenging enough without worrying about what everyone else is doing, don’t you think?

When we are focused on the “competition” and what other people are doing, we are not focused on our own dreams and can not possibly be thinking creatively. Instead, we are focused on what we think we need to compete with. This often results in trying to duplicate what the other person is doing instead of coming up with our own creative and original ideas whether we realize it or not. When we are wrapped up in feelings of fear and lack, we are not focusing on our dream. The energy that should be directed toward and invested in our dream and going – guess where? Into the “competition’s” dream!

“When you compete, you cannot win, even if you think you have.”

Insecure people who are invested in power and control end up getting exactly the opposite of what they want and causing themselves undue stress and anxiety. For many, this results in physical illness. In the case of the story I mention above, that person ended up giving up their dream and their business.

Men do this with aggressive games of power. Women seem to do it with catty and bitchy methods and put more emotion into it. Frankly ladies, I’m embarrassed for us. This behavior contributes to the patriarchal attitude that women are not qualified to run businesses or countries and is one of the things that puts that glass ceiling above our heads.

Life is not meant to be a struggle. Life is meant to be easy, joyful and fun. Imagine how free we can feel when we forget about what everyone else is doing and just focus on our own dream. Imagine the feelings of excitement and anticipation that we are free to feel when we focus only on the good things that are coming to us! Are you picking up on the keyword here? It’s “Freedom.”

Focus on your own dream. Let the “competition” worry about their own dream and experience feelings of lack if that’s what they choose. Know that what you desire is an absolute fact, because we are never given the desire without the ability to make it happen.

As always, Mike Dooley’s Notes From The Universe e-mail had just what I needed today that fits perfectly with this blog:

Do you know what happens, Parthena, when folks distrust the trustworthy?

They begin attracting the untrustworthy.

Ain’t pretty.

And for those who trust the untrustworthy?

Yeah, they begin attracting the trustworthy.

Trust me,
The Universe

Have a safe and happy Fourth, and please take a moment to remember those who are fighting for our freedom.

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